Relationships — of all kinds — are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely, with an open hand the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most of it will slip. Every relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But trying to get it too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost. But what are those factors that impact a relationship and the parties separate with mostly not so good memories.
A relation to me is something that keeps the two parties intact. This can be something that can bring the two very close to each other, so close that they decide to spend quality time of their lives with each other.
Let us try to check how a relation can be nutritious and healthy. The important ingredient for a relation to be long lasting is to be vocal, both the parties in a relation needs to speak up clearly for themselves. Honestly speaking most of us fear stating our needs and this always result in either surrendering to the other or compromising with the situation. Ultimately this will turn in disappointment and anger for the other for not noticing their unstated needs. It is not just speaking up for you will help the issue you need to learn to listen as well. When you are brave enough to speak up you also need to be courageous enough to listen, and by listening means truly listen. There are times when listening is all we need to solve the issues, try to put your feet in your partner’s shoes.
Speaking, learning is not enough in some cases when the problems at hand are serious, here what you can do is to negotiate. Have a conversation on the issue gather the perspective of both filter them and find a best possible option that suits both. It will help to reach a common goal and will filter all the unwanted aspects from the issue. Healthy relations need negotiations all the times to flourish.
Solve problems as they arise. Hurt feelings are the most dangerous cause to weakening a relation, so act wisely and try to resolve the issues as they arise. Relation is not solo it requires two so you need to work as a team in keeping up the flag high. Co-operate, and share responsibilities what goes wrong in a relation is when you stop co-operating and sharing with your partner this leads to strong differences against one another and ultimately you become stranger to the other.
Last but not the least APOLOGIZE. No one is perfect and as humans we are bound to make mistakes. These apologetic attempts can be funny, clumsy but these repair attempts are crucial at every point in keeping a healthy relation going.
Remember a Relation can never be long lasting and healthy without honesty. To have an ideal relationship all you need to be honest not only with you but with your partner as well.